Ok, after talking about dealing with a bad first date, let’s stop the cynicism for a while and talk about the other side of the first date: the successful side. The excitement from the success of the first date can be overwhelming for someone, especially if that someone has been in a series of unsuccessful dates previously. But this shouldn’t a reason for you to stifle the other person and be clingy all of a sudden. You might scare him/her.
The question that rings—no pun intended—in someone’s mind after a successful first date is, when do I call him/her?
The appropriate amount of time before you call your date is about a day or two, depending on how clingy you gauge the other person to be. It’s also the perfect amount of time to gauge your own neediness for this person, and how long you can stand not talking to him/her.
However, waiting a day or two before you call the other person up doesn’t mean you can build up all your emotion and blurt out everything that’s been on you mind since your date. The waiting part would’ve been useless.
When you make the first phone call after the first date, don’t sound too exciting or too nonchalant either. Sound interested. Tell him/her about your views on your date then ask him/her about his/her views. If you get a positive response and you got to a really good conversation and you both sounded happy, I think the conversation should be continued on a more personal level, don’t you think? It may be time for a second date.
But don’t plan going out on a date immediately the following night. Set a date for at least three nights ahead, to give both of you some time to collect yourselves and to miss each other a little.
After the second date, phone calls should be easier and should come less stressful because you’ve covered a lot more topic on the second date, topics to bring up and talk about.
From then on, the dates should come more often and more adventurous and exciting. Learn to do exciting and spontaneous stuff. Be yourself, and have fun with your new budding relationship.