This is a post dedicated to peacockers especially, to help them realize that quality women don’t buy all their so-called “dressing up”. Women are more perceptive now, more intelligent and—based from my experience and from a survey I conducted to my women friends—do not like peacockers in general.
The qualities I’m going to mention are what most women, including myself, find most attractive in a man. This might be a feeble attempt to shed light to some peacockers and actually make themselves useful rather than make themselves look stupid, but I’m going to do it anyway.
The qualities that women find attractive in a man, in no particular order, are:
1. Sense of humor – some men mistake inappropriate jokes and stupid remarks to sense of humor. I feel sorry for those. Really. If you’re able to make a woman laugh without (seemingly) making too much effort about it, you’re bound to be remembered. Plus having a great sense of humor means you are intelligent and witty, because it takes some brain to make an impromptu joke without someone pointing a gun in your head.
2. Self-confidence – confidence is sexy. Conceit, however, is another thing. A man who is confident about himself about being able to talk to a girl and maintaining an actual conversation with her is someone who doesn’t worry too much about anything insignificant.
3. Spontaneity – no, spontaneity doesn’t mean suddenly standing up on the bar and screaming “Geronimo!” when only two minutes earlier you were laughing with your date. Women like excitement, not embarrassment. So if you’re planning to be spontaneous (ironic, right?) better think of something that would be fun and would not include the use of fire or ice in any strange activity.
4. Style – no, wearing a crocodile’s tooth (with a little hint of a blood) for a pendant is not having style. It’s creepy and gross. It’s not about wearing outrageous outfits or designer clothes and shoes. It’s about carrying yourself well and looking good despite normal clothes. There are some men who wear nice clothes who usually look too worried they might spill something on their shirt or something, and that makes them look either pathetic or gay. And there are some men who wear normal-looking clothes but it’s so obvious they sort of feel embarrassed for wearing just plain clothes, that you feel sorry for them instead. No matter what you wear, the most important thing to remember is to stick with your personality and be confident about it. You don’t need expensive clothes or extravagant outfits to be stylish.
The bottom line is, don’t push it if you keep being slapped for saying the same joke over and over again, or being avoided by women when you wear that skull necklace you have. You have to realize that maybe there is something wrong.